4 Ways to Honor Your Wife ~Fair and Balanced, Just For Men Part 3
My awesome husband periodically writes here for the men, and especially for all the wanna-be-men little boys. If you missed the previous posts, you can find them at Introduction and Part 2 What is a real man?
He’ll take it from here…
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Last time, we talked about how real men take responsibility and love their wives with selfless love.
Now lets talk about a few ways we men can honor our wives in practical ways.
The following eight practical way to honor our wives comes in large part from Mark Driscols message entitled Marriage and Men available at Marshillchurch.org.
1. Honor her maritally.
Remember back when you publicly and before God, vowed to be faithful to this one woman until death do you part? Be a man of your word, faithful despite varied circumstances that make in tough or inconvenient.
It should go without saying that your commitment to be faithful to your wife is the most important and significant commitment you will make with a person in this life.
But, based upon your actions, does your wife have confidence that you see it this way? Are your priorities obviously those of a faithful and committed husband? As you consider this, you may decide to make some personal “rules” to guard your marriage. Things like no flirting or sexual “jokes” with other women, period. Or having a policy of not riding in a car or dining alone with another women who is not your wife. These simple things might seem silly or unnecessary. However, each action taken to protect and remain true and faithful will be significant to your wife.
By the way, men, faithfulness also includes our thought and fantasy lives. Watching porn, visiting strip clubs, or fantasizing about other women is unfaithfulness of the heart. It is not a joke and it’s not cute no matter how socially acceptable it may be.
If you are engaged in any of the above, in addition to being pathetic, you are dishonoring your wife. Honor her maritally.
2. Honor her physically.
Be a protector, never a threat.
If your wife has ever felt threatened by you in any way, you have failed.
An abusive man is a coward, undeserving of respect. On the other hand, a strong protective man inspires respect, confidence and admiration of his wife. Yes men, you are most likely far stronger physically that your wife. This strength is solely for the purpose of protection, never for intimidation.
3. Honor her emotionally.
Be emotionally present and available. Take her on dates and really connect with her on an emotional level. This one is admittedly tough for some of us guys who were somehow taught that emotions are not a masculine characteristic. Whatever the case, we need to get over ourselves and learn to connect with our wives on a level that may well be the equivalent of sex for a man.
Men, she is a real person with feelings and emotion. Learn it and love it.
4. Honor her verbally.
Speak respectfully to her. Use words for the purpose of building up, never tearing down. Speak well of her when she is present AND when she is not.
Making fun of her or speaking badly of your wife to others does not make you look cool. It only makes you look like a tool.
That goes for back handed compliments and “joking”.
Good stuff Rob. I will be doing my best to follow those thoughts with my girl.
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